My favorite blogger, Feminista Jones, has a tweet pinned to her timeline that reads:
"On some of my darkest days, when depression rests at the foot of my bed threatening to bind my feet, I dance in an embodiment of my joy."
Click 'read more' for more information on depression + tips to combat the latter.
If you've never experienced depression, its like having a dark cloud over your head ALL DAY EVERYDAY. You ever just wake up and not want to get out of bed, or are you familiar with that sucky feeling you get after watching a movie like Precious or Titanic? Depression is like that but it literally stays with you. There's no sleeping it off, there's no let me put on Maury and feel better about my life (not that I do that... I totally don't do that). Depression isn't just feeling sad, or being a Debbie downer, it's unshakable.
If you have experienced depression, or currently feeling the bouts of it; allow me to provide you with a list of things you can do to take your mind off of things.
Read Yoko Ono's haikus
One day while I was in a rut, I came across my soul sister, Yoko Ono (for those unfamiliar, she was John Lennon's boo thang) haikus, which was profoundly deep for such short writing.
even if nobody else
in this world sees it
YEAH, YOU READ RIGHT.
honestlyI am giving you permission to sit in front of your computer, or more conveniently the streaming service provides an option of watching it on TV via game console, roku, etc. Binge watch anything from the collections of movies (both new and old cause Netflix is stepping their game up ya'll!!) or TV Shows. I personally love Bob's Burgers or this new show called the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, but whatever your flavor, WATCH THE FLIX.
(SIDEBAR: Orange the New Black comes out June 12th & I'm twerking about it..)
Watch The Breakfast Club or other 80s classics.
For extra bonus points: throw a 90s flick in there. Because what makes you feel better than watch Ferris fuck up his friend dads' car or hearing Molly Ringwald scream at Emilio Estevez about how she's a big fat virgin and embarassed about it?
Remember when I wrote that post about transformations & working out (of course you do) and I talked about how working out releases endorphins, yeah, I wasn't kidding. Its scientifically proven, by actual scientist and doctors, that the feel goood hormone is release and connected to pain perception receptors in the brain. Yeah, I know working out kind of sucks (I'm looking at you one reader from the polls) but if you think about it, any physical movement that makes you sweat (hint-hint) counts as exercise. Make due with what you take from that.
Write. Write. Write.
I feel like I'm hitting ya'll with all the Ws today. First Watch, then Workout, now I'm suggesting write. Express your feelings in a word, or two, or paragraphs. Getting those thoughts out of your head and on paper is just about the most relieving form of expression. Because of the thought inducing state that writing brings on, writing allows you to dig deep, and get to the core of your feelings. You can write for days, or you could write for years (I've met someone working on a book for 9 YEARS!) But nothing beats just taking a few minutes at the start or end of your day to reflect, relive, or reimagine life and it's greatest moments.
Fake it till you make it
This is just about the only time I'll advise you to be fake. It's for a good cause anyhow. If you're not at your highest, act like you are. Sometimes you could pinpoint your sadness, other times you can't, so slap a smile on it. This isn't to say that your feelings are invalid, but sometimes opposites cancel out.
Speak to a Professional
Why? Because it's not only their job, but it's what most professionals are good at. In NYC, there's an abundance of resources that can help you get free or affordable therapy/counseling. It can be pretty tough asking for help, you're talking to one of the most prideful and stubborn person you'd ever meet. But by under those three words, you can be saving your life, improving your mood, and your overall perception of the world.
Speak to a friend
Or family, or anyone you can trust. You'd be surprised at the amount of consolation you'd feel after you've popped your lid open, and spilled your feelings. Some people are worried that by telling your friends what's going on, you'll be bogging them down with your own burdens. Honestly, thats true. That can happen. We're all one drop of water in the same ocean. We all have problems, and sometimes as humans we can be so intuitive that we take in the energies of others. Talk to a friend you want to build a relationship with in doses first. Giving someone too much information at once can be very heavy on them and yourself, so take it slow. And try to limit your tea to only one person or the most trusted person; too many tea drinkers becomes a Boston Tea Party.
I met a guy on the train and he pointed out the "Are You Depressed?" Columbia University ad to me, and said "you only see signs like that in New York City, so much is going on here, everybody's sad.." So make sure you're taking care of yourself honeys. Don't let the dark clouds of depression put a damper on your day.
If you're feeling suicidal, or having suicidal thoughts, please call 911 for an emergency, or Samaritans Suicide Prevention Hotline - (212) 673-3000 or LIFENET - (800) 543-3638.